Stuck In A Funk

August 3, 2017

Stuck in a funk? Life in reverse? Time to get a Plan.

Some of us know the feeling when life becomes a grind and routine is the main game. It’s like the days just turn into weeks, then into months without much changing and there is nothing in sight to break the monotony.

When we find ourselves in times such as this we begin to ask ‘Why doesn’t anything good happen for me?  Why do other people seem to have these great lives when mine is just the same old, day in, day out?’  This inward view creates a self-fulfilling prophecy as we wait from someone, something, to turn up and make it all rainbows and unicorns.

That sense of being stuck can be literally be soul destroying.  We find ourselves waiting around for things to change, to improve, and for us to finally get a sense of our bliss and begin to really live.  The ironic nature of where we find ourselves means that we have stopped.  We are literally stuck in our own lives. We reach out for answers, usually in all the wrong places, and we continue sit in the same place wondering when things will shift. And so it goes.

How do you break the hold and begin to bring in the wonderful things you so wish for?

It requires you to act.  Do something. Do anything. No one else can adequately get you out of your funk if you’re just sitting on the couch. Because part of the solution is your acknowledgement that you are responsible for your life and ultimately your choices.  It means it’s time to move. Action creates action.  Best cliché you will ever hear.

The question you need to ask yourself is ‘Can you just keep on waiting for things to get better?

If the answer is no, and it should be no, then I suggest you get yourself a plan.

Not a mind-numbing, goal smashing, over-achieving manifesto (but if that’s what you want, go for it).  I’m talking about at least having some idea about what you need, want, desire, require and deciding on some steps you can realistically take to moving towards their attainment.

A plan means that you have some idea of where you are going and where you want to be.  It means that you are investing time and thought into making your life a better place.  Fancy that!  It is really about you being the master of your own destiny.  It begins with having an idea about alternatives to what you are currently experiencing.

Starting anything is sometimes the most difficult thing to do for some people. But small steps create journeys.  Here are some prompts to help you put a fire beneath your life.

  1. Sit down and write out what you want your life to look like in five years.  Don’t edit this, just get the words down onto the page and cover off as many aspects as possible – where you live, your relationships, your health, material things, emotional things, spiritual things, travel, experiences – the sky is the limit.
  2. Write of list of what you DON’T want in your life anymore.  What needs to be left behind. Use this to figure out what you do want and start with getting these going.
  3. Take a long hard look at your weekly routine and break this down into categories.  Make small changes and see how your situation begins to shift.
  4. Cut yourself some slack – set aside some time each week where you commit to yourself to do something of interest, something new, something that makes you peaceful/happy/relaxed.
  5. Make a wish list – think big.  Stick the list on the fridge. Allow yourself the time and space to work towards attaining your wish.
  6. Set a date or even a few – where you break the nexus of routine.  Go on a quick getaway, or a longer trip.  Catch up with friends.  See a show.

And if all that is too much, for whatever reason, then ask a friend or someone who knows you well to assist you.  They may be able to put forward suggestions you hadn’t considered or help guide you on small changes you can make which help you move towards your goals.

Set your life’s compass and be the controller of change in your life.  It’s the only way to live.

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Libby Fordham

Writer, thinker, creator – Libby is interested in the things that make the world turn. She loves to explore modern life, its ironies, complexities and culture. She is currently writing her first book while also juggling a business, her art and her family.